Topic is Sleeping.
MyAndI (original poster member #75422) posted at 7:14 PM on Thursday, April 29th, 2021
I found a place in town with a friend. Don't know what I'm going to do yet, but I'm not interested in being with Andi right now; and my gut tells me that I'm not interested in R, ever.
Married in our 20's headed for D in our 50s. I really did try to R and I a came clean. I'm sorry to say that Andi's continued selfishness and lack of accountability about her A's is never going to change.
I just want to be with someone who is honest about their failings in life and owns them. Not looking for perfection, just someone who has enough pride in themselves and respect for the person closest to them to be sincere.
I know I hurt Andi, but I came clean and laid it all out there in the days after OW was discovered.
And I've had nothing but blame shifting and minimizing from Andi.
[This message edited by MyAndI at 1:17 PM, April 29th (Thursday)]
I failed at R
Survived Infidelity as a BH, WW had a six-month EA/PA, then I had an affair of my own many years later that lasted three-years, never thought I'd ever cheat.
HappilyMarried1 ( member #77296) posted at 9:41 PM on Thursday, April 29th, 2021
Sorry @MyAndI,
Sorry for what you are going through. I personally think it is more difficult to handle infidelity later in life especially after spending 20+ years with your spouse.
I do think you made the right decision to move out. It will give you both time apart and not in each others face everyday to better to decide what path you guys want to take in the future. Also, maybe your moving out will make your wife to see that you are serious about what she has done and held back from you all of these years. Best of luck!
[This message edited by HappilyMarried1 at 3:43 PM, April 29th (Thursday)]
Topic is Sleeping.
