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Movies that depicts well the struggle of an Affair

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AboveAverage7913 posted 11/15/2020 17:20 PM

The Undoing on HBO.

Same team as Big Little Lies.

About a therapist that doesn't see the problems in her own marriage.

Can't say I'm enjoying it.

oldtruck posted 11/15/2020 18:28 PM

there is a S Korean and Philippine infidelity series, believe they
were dubbed, at least subtitles. Both series had about 6 hour
long episodes.

It showed the BH having his D day, separation, divorce, then
recovery years later. Very realistic.

I'll try to find the titles again.

BetterTimesAhead posted 11/15/2020 18:46 PM

Not your typical infidelity movie, but "A Madea Family Funeral". Too much to explain, but a lot of explanations about why and tough choices BS have to make in the aftermath. Best part is it does not glorify infidelity at all.

nscale56 posted 11/16/2020 03:03 AM

The Descendants. George Clooney

DevastatedDee posted 11/16/2020 07:55 AM

The Undoing on HBO.
Same team as Big Little Lies.

About a therapist that doesn't see the problems in her own marriage.

Can't say I'm enjoying it.

That one is hitting home a little bit, with the WH being a completely fake person.

Stinger posted 11/16/2020 09:31 AM

Yes, The Descendants for sure.

One that I absolutely hate is Bridges of Madison County. Really romanticized cheating and made heroes of the cheaters.

Belle25 posted 11/16/2020 12:10 PM

One that I absolutely hate is Bridges of Madison County. Really romanticized cheating and made heroes of the cheaters.

So did The Notebook and Titanic. People eat them up though.

Westway posted 11/16/2020 12:39 PM

"The Descendants" with George Clooney is very realistic.

"Crazy Stupid Love" is a somewhat gently funny and sometimes stupid film about a man (Steve Carell) who hires a dating coach to get over his WW's (Juliane Moore) affair. It is a bit of a farce, but portrays some truths if you have the stomach to look for them. For instance, when the man embarks on self-improvement and ends up bedding a series of women, the WW is shocked and angry when she finds out, but then she seems to have a change of heart when she realizes he was a good guy and great catch and that her OP is just a user.

[This message edited by Westway at 1:04 PM, November 16th (Monday)]

JanaGreen posted 11/16/2020 13:07 PM

One thing I do like about The Notebook is that Ally's fiance wasn't demonized the way most victims of cheating are in movies. He was a decent guy who didn't do anything to deserve what happened to him.

WilliamM posted 11/16/2020 13:16 PM

Atypical first and second season covers the affair of the wife and mother of the main character, Elsa. Her daughter discovers the affair and burst her by writing a message to her on the refrigerator. That is how her husband Doug finds out about it. The show deals with the effect the affair has on the family. It is hard to watch.

Westway posted 11/16/2020 14:39 PM

One thing I do like about The Notebook is that Ally's fiance wasn't demonized the way most victims of cheating are in movies. He was a decent guy who didn't do anything to deserve what happened to him.

I watched that with my daughters and had to bow out a third of the way through it. Ended up watching it all the way through a couple months ago. That is one movie that does gloss over the infidelity. It doesn't try to justify it, but it treats Ally's fiancée like he was an afterthought.

[This message edited by Westway at 2:39 PM, November 16th (Monday)]

jinkazama posted 11/16/2020 14:52 PM

oldtruck


Is it "My Wife is having an affair this week"

Stinger posted 11/16/2020 14:58 PM

Yeah, many times, if the cheater is the protagonist, the betrayed is portrayed as abusive or, at the very least, boring and unevolved.

That Bridges movie did this to her husband, a decent, yet uninteresting (to her guy)).Kind of a
bad boy Alpha vs the alleged Beta.

I was a Beta. In reality, I am sure I co UK ld have kicked the bad boy's ass, easily.

oldtruck posted 11/16/2020 18:14 PM

jinkazama, I guess you saw that. What did you think of it?

WhatsRight posted 11/16/2020 18:40 PM

I’m a little afraid to share this, but I actually liked the movie “The Bridges of Madison County”.

OF COURSE the infidelity was wrong wrong wrong. But after the infidelity, she made the choice to stay with her husband. She stayed. She raised her kids. She stayed even though she was INVISIBLE to her entire family. She stayed and built a life with him...took care of her husband when he was ill and dying. And he obviously knew she had “settled” in her life with him.

But...No way to defend or excuse her behavior with the photographer.

I guess that even though I am the BS rather than the WS, I can identify with Meryl Streep in this movie. She felt it was the right thing to do to stay in a situation where she was not happy. That’s what I’m doing. Of course, I didn’t cheat on him at any point.

I didn’t feel that it idealized the affair. I think it showed that from her lonely and invisible life with her family, to the photographer who would not have made a good life partner, to the husband who tried to be all that he could be but wasn’t enough, to the kids as adults with their own issues and hurtful situations.

I thought it was a good depiction of some of the realities of life.

I hope my saying that doesn’t trigger anyone, or give the impression I support the affair.


guvensiz posted 11/21/2020 12:41 PM

I have lots of them. Some of them are here;

- The Painted Veil (Edward Norton, Naomi Watts)

- Take This waltz (Seth Rogen, Michelle Williams)

-Silver Linings Playbook (Bradley Cooper, Jennifer Lawrence)

- The Delinquent Season

- We Don't Live Here Anymore (Mark Ruffalo, Laura Dern)

- 50/50 (J.Gordon-Levitt, Anna Kendrick, Seth Rogen)

- People Places Things

waitedwaytoolong posted 11/21/2020 14:20 PM

Into my heart is a tragic story.

Queen of hearts with the most despicable WW ever

jinkazama posted 11/21/2020 15:00 PM

jinkazama, I guess you saw that. What did you think of it?

I am sorry i forgot to put question mark? on that line.

I was asking you about it if thats the name.

Actually i dont really remember the show

So i cant say anything about it

de.va.sta.ted posted 11/22/2020 08:07 AM

Love Actually is a movie that I've watched so many times. It's reviled by many, but for whatever reason, I still find it a holiday comfort.

I totally relate to Emma Thompson's character.
But now, I'm Emma Thompson's character who has moved on, no longer holding a family together... or at least not in the way I have, up until around 6 months ago.

Interesting to think about. The books, songs, movies we revisit change, with our changed outlooks.

Pandora16 posted 11/22/2020 11:15 AM

Govensiz,

The scene in 50/50 when Seth Rogan tells off Joseph Gordon-Levite’s cheating girlfriend is EPIC.

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