LemonSpearmint posted 10/19/2020 08:17 AM

I do shift work. I really love my job, but could just do day shift. I take the extra work to help our family get ahead financially.

It's detrimental to your health, but you do what you have to do sometimes, you know?

However, night shift is a double whammy because it can be quiet, giving me too much time to think (total overthinker here)

It also gave my FWH more time to contact AP. I'd be killing myself slowly and he'd be having phone sex with her.

I believe he has been NC since coming back. He's doing what he can to reassure me. It still makes my chest hurt.

Bigger posted 10/19/2020 08:23 AM

My suggestion would be to drop a VAR into your nightstand before leaving for the shift.
Use whatever info it gives you accordingly. If it doesn’t pick anything then it should/could indicate he’s doing the work. If he spends the evening phoning the AP… well… at least you know.
The truth is never the hard part. Truth can be dealt with. It’s the unknown that is hard.

LemonSpearmint posted 10/20/2020 13:28 PM

Thanks for your wise advice.

Also, you're completely right, it is the unknown that's hard.