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LemonSpearmint (original poster new member #75630) posted at 2:17 PM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
I do shift work. I really love my job, but could just do day shift. I take the extra work to help our family get ahead financially.
It's detrimental to your health, but you do what you have to do sometimes, you know?
However, night shift is a double whammy because it can be quiet, giving me too much time to think (total overthinker here)
It also gave my FWH more time to contact AP. I'd be killing myself slowly and he'd be having phone sex with her. 
I believe he has been NC since coming back. He's doing what he can to reassure me. It still makes my chest hurt.
Me: BW 40 / Him: WH 42
Dday July 15 2020
3 month EA/PA - Working on R
Keep moving forward
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 2:23 PM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
My suggestion would be to drop a VAR into your nightstand before leaving for the shift.
Use whatever info it gives you accordingly. If it doesn’t pick anything then it should/could indicate he’s doing the work. If he spends the evening phoning the AP… well… at least you know.
The truth is never the hard part. Truth can be dealt with. It’s the unknown that is hard.
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
LemonSpearmint (original poster new member #75630) posted at 7:28 PM on Tuesday, October 20th, 2020
Thanks for your wise advice.
Also, you're completely right, it is the unknown that's hard.
Me: BW 40 / Him: WH 42
Dday July 15 2020
3 month EA/PA - Working on R
Keep moving forward
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