Hi SI ers,
I am 1 year from D and 2.5 from DD. Wow. I can't believe I just wrote that. When I first got on here it felt like the nightmare would never end.
So since D I accidentally fell in love (not with someone available...lived too far), then guy #2: dated for a week then had a long distance relationship for 4 months, started online dating and have gone on double digit coffee dates. Dated a hot younger guy for less than a month (still no sex though...I need to be in a committed LTR to feel safe).
I am quitting OLD because I am feeling pretty sad. Lots of grief coming out lately. Is this normal? To not want to date when that's all I've wanted for so long? Did any of you take a break midstream?
I remember after DD I thought I couldn't wait to be with someone. It just hasn't happened for me.
I have a few questions though.
Why is the first break up sooo heartbreaking and way, way WORSE than Dday? How is it possible to not feel much for the WH and so much for the first guy after Dday? Seems confusing.
Keeping in mind that everyone is different, how long was it from D to the time you met your SO?
What was the longest amount of time you spent alone since D?
Even though I am really grateful for my life, I have had something really weird happen lately...I found myself missing having someone who I knew (well, actually that can be debated), let's say the illusion of having someone who was just there. Like a piece of familiar furniture! How can I miss that??
Thanks for answering. I really appreciate you all.