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EllieKMAS (original poster member #68900) posted at 8:01 AM on Friday, September 13th, 2019
So I am at a work conference and today was really hard. Just was really struggling. My boss and I were hanging out with a couple other people that work in our town that she knew. The girl is a hoot and a half and I can see being friends with her long term. She gets my sarcasm and we laughed a lot. I told her my story and she had a matching one and we compared notes. The guy... I'd have to be dead to not notice that he's cute. But that's not what this post is about.
Like I said, I was really struggling today. Havin a rough one. He said something earlier and I kinda flippantly blurted something about my ex boinking a teenager. Turns out this guy's first wife cheated on him. Small world!
The moment of grace for me? I told my truth. Not only was my truth accepted but it was embraced. By her cus she's a woman and w def connected. With him not in a romantic way (he is happily engaged and I heard all about his fiancee), but my truth allowed for real connections and didn't make people run away screaming.
I told a friend of mine recently that my exWH didn't get to make me not be my truthful trusting self, and tonight gave me hope that's true. And also let me know that there ARE still stand up guys in the world.
It was a beautiful thing and I am very appreciative of the peace it brought me today.
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 6:54 PM on Friday, September 13th, 2019
Great step forward! Never be afraid to tell the truth. The shame is his to bear, not yours. Never lose sight of that. 
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
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