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Me [45 M] with my wife[37/F] 10years plus, Social media messages

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twisted posted 12/30/2018 10:27 AM

Did you get the sim card from the trashed phone ?

Buster123 posted 12/30/2018 11:11 AM

WW spilt more secrets today she did kiss the guy and he stuck his hands down her pants. There has to be more to it. She said tonight there is more to tell. I spoke to my lawyer friend again today.

You know what's coming right ? Of course there's more, why would a guy just stop at that, but anyway, she's still minimizing, she doesn't know what you know, she thinks you hacked her FB account, don't admit to it but don't deny it either, just tell her to confess, even though you will get some minimized verson of it, you know adults involved in As have sex period. She's in an active A, just file for D without warning and EXPOSE her with ALL family and close friends, make sure you record the conversation tonight with your phone or a VAR.

kids are 100 percent ours 99.9% sure this emotional affair was not physical but was definately leading there eventually. I have her laptop still but cant get past her facebook password

Remember this ? I told you I was 99.9% sure it was a PA and she just confirmed it, please get tested for STDs ASAP, she's a serial cheater, file for D and don't look back.

[This message edited by Buster123 at 11:16 AM, December 30th (Sunday)]

TimSC posted 12/30/2018 12:10 PM

It doesn't take a genius to understand what the "more to tell" is. If they are kissing and he is sticking his hands down her pants (with her consent obviously), the next step is obvious.

Serial cheater.......divorce.

RocketRaccoon posted 12/30/2018 22:49 PM

She said tonight there is more to tell.

She will probably admit to 'only' a handjob, and say that that will all. Nothing else happened..... yeah, right...

In 2006, she had taken it 'all the way', and once a person has crossed that line, it will be easier to cross again, as the trepidation of taking that big leap is gone.

As mentioned by others, recover her phone data through a repair shop, and keep the SIM card. This will help you arm yourself with knowledge. You will not be able to forgive (if that is even an intention of yours) what you don't know.

At this stage, your WW is not R material for sure, as she is definitely not remorseful nor safe.

If you do end up on the D(ivorce) route, make it a point that your kids are not left alone with your WW's A(ffair) P(artner) at any time.

If she does turn remorseful (hahahaha), what consequences will you implement?

twisted posted 12/31/2018 08:52 AM

Retrieve the sim card, you may be able to logon to her facebook account directly, or be able to reset the password and send the confirmation to that phone.

Bigger posted 12/31/2018 09:31 AM


What is it you are trying to do?
Infidelity doesn’t factor in divorce. You won’t get more custody, less spousal support or anything like that even if you can prove she has had a gazillion affairs.
You don’t have to prove to her that she’s cheating.
She has already told you enough to confirm for YOU that she’s cheating.
Even without this being a physical affair (and we already know it is) then the behavior in the marriage is toxic.

To me – if I stick to the capsized boat comparison – it sounds like you are trying to prove that she capsized the boat. That’s OK… except while you are focusing on that then your kids are still drowning. You aren’t any closer to safety.

The SIM card doesn’t matter. Her FB account doesn’t matter.
What matters is that YOU start getting out of infidelity.

Dismayed2012 posted 1/2/2019 09:38 AM

Be a man AG; save yourself and your kids. Divorce the serial cheater and move on with your life. End the drama; get it over with. There's no better time to take your life back. Get yourself out of infidelity.

Unbroken78 posted 1/2/2019 19:31 PM


You are on the right track. It's like they say, when you are going through hell, keep going.

Keep up the good fight. Get the cancer out of your life and build the life you deserve. She is obviously poison and keeping her in your life is like asking how much brown snake venom you want to swallow.


At some point, it's time to make the decision and drop papers on a WW.

jlg05 posted 1/14/2019 16:02 PM

Anon, how are you doing? Have you found out more, initiated the divorce (which she certainly deserves).
I Hope that YOU and your children are doing ok through all of this.

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