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My 10,000th post - You Are Going To Be Ok

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Jpapageorge posted 6/6/2015 03:26 AM


Jpapageorge posted 7/4/2015 04:25 AM


Tumbled posted 7/4/2015 15:37 PM

This post has made me cry, but thank you........that's all I have done today is cry,cry,cry, why did he have to do this to me...I have been so strong since D day, but i'm missing him so much. We have had no contact now since 8 May, nothing, no texts, zilch. He's moved to another town.

He's had an EA for I don't know how long and next week he's off out to the USA to meet up, damn!!! We live in the U.K and he would have never taken me so far on a holiday, I had to always choose short flights because he supposedly hated flying.

I'm not sure how much I can take....I will not try to stop him because I know we are over but it is hurting so much. This is the worse day I have had by far and i'm fourteen weeks out now. I just wish I could turn back the clock....

Jrazz posted 7/6/2015 13:11 PM


It's soooooo hard in the beginning. You aren't going to feel ok for a while, which is why we stay here - to give you a snapshot of a couple years out.

It happens - we grow and learn and we become stronger. Life will never be the same, but you WILL learn how to appreciate having people with integrity in your life, and to see your own value outside of this betrayal.

Sending you big hugs.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 1:12 PM, July 6th (Monday)]

needfriendshere posted 7/6/2015 19:14 PM



Yes, yes, yes! You all told me this when I first found you and it is true. I found strength I didn't know I had and my relationship with H is probably more genuine than it has ever been.


reddawn212 posted 7/6/2015 20:45 PM

I just read this and OMG I needed to see this today. I am going to print it and keep it with me. (((((Thank U))))))

yearsofpain25 posted 8/14/2015 14:17 PM


StillLivin posted 8/24/2015 23:32 PM


mchercheur posted 9/6/2015 08:59 AM


Jpapageorge posted 10/4/2015 02:18 AM


loneliestman posted 10/4/2015 03:55 AM

I haven't cried for 3 days now, but this post...someone's cutting onions somewhere.

This is my big question - am I going to be OK? Are my children going to be OK?

I so very want my children to be OK - even selfishly, my "OKness" relies on their "OKness". Their OKness will bring order to my life. And if I have order in my life, I will be OK.

It's also....this is so so tiring. It's all-consuming.

Jpapageorge posted 11/7/2015 04:07 AM


yearsofpain25 posted 12/10/2015 16:39 PM


DeeplyCrushed posted 12/11/2015 17:30 PM

I have read this post several times over the past few months and really needed to read it again today. I know I'm making progress but for some reason today has been a tough one.

Maybe it's because it's the holiday season, maybe it's because WH and OW have now been living together for 6 months... I don't know. I just feel really down.

Thank you ((((( Jrazz ))))) Your words are inspiring!

Jrazz posted 12/12/2015 12:28 PM


They still hold true. I'm glad you found us and can take some solace in the company.

Littlest posted 12/12/2015 20:50 PM

Wonderful post- thank you!

I am trying to map progress-- looking back, I recall in the first few months, I was like a deer in headlights. Numb. Couldn't eat, sleep, clean, talk. I somehow managed to make it to work, just to fall apart right when I got home. I literally would just stare at a wall. I guess my brain and heart were trying to process what happened to no avail.

I am proud that part is behind me.. I occasionally lapse here and there, but am present and focusing on being grateful for the things in my life that are good and learning new things that I enjoy. I am getting to be ok, maybe just still a little sad.

I am so thankful for this site-- everyone here that has shared their story. It's helped my healing so much and has helped me stay strong with keeping NC.

i wish that all people that are on the verge of cheating could somehow get even a glimpse of the madness and pain they're about to unleash...there are about a million better choices right in front of them they could make instead.

MadOldBat posted 12/13/2015 02:55 AM

Thank you Jrazz, for your post; for this site; for all the wonderful mods and members.

.... at 17 months out from my last DDay, then TT for 12 months - I am surprisingly ok.

Whatever happens in our M, I am thankful for my children, my grandchildren, my life, myself.

S.I. Has helped me survive.

Thank you JRazz, thank you everyone.

I am ME!

MadOldBat posted 12/13/2015 02:56 AM

I am ME! (And I double posted) oops

[This message edited by MadOldBat at 2:57 AM, December 13th (Sunday)]

devotedman posted 12/25/2015 10:36 AM


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