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Signs of Cheating

submitted by Members of SI.com, Compiled by MsLonely

This is a list compiled by the members of Surviving Infidelity of some of the signs that a significant other may be cheating.

• Secretive phone calls
• Unreachable by phone
• Unexplained numbers on phone bill
• If you call their cell phone and get the call waiting beep...they say they weren't using the phone.
• Never leaves the house without their cell phone/pager
• Hang up calls or someone always saying they've got the wrong number when you answer
• Hiding cell phone or pager
• Strange numbers on pager (could be codes)
• Hiding cell phone/home phone bills/credit card statements
• Phone bills changed from detailed to normal
• Acting different( short tempered, distant, defensive, etc.)
• Neglecting chores at home
• Picking fights over trivial things in order to get you to leave the house, or so they can leave the house
• Accusing YOU of cheating
• Withdrawing from you/family/friends
• Pointing out YOUR flaws
• Telling you that you'll talk about your relationship concerns when it's more "convenient"
• Little input into future plans with you
• Telling you your concerns about the relationship are "all in your head"
• Avoid any conversation with you other than basics ( "when's dinner", etc.)
• The " I love you, but I’m not IN love with you " talk
• New interest in exercise/diet
• More time at the gym
• Sleeping ALOT
• New cologne/perfume
• New wardrobe
• Suddenly carrying breath fresheners( gum, mints, etc.) with them constantly
• New password protection on computer
• Secret e-mail accounts
• Up on computer to all hours
• Closing dialogue windows on the computer when you walk into the room
• Erasing computer history after every use
• Unexplained purchases on credit card
• ATM withdrawals at unusual locations
• Extra mileage on the car
• Errands that should take 1/2 hour take much longer
• Claims to do things they've never done before ( shop, etc.)
• Buying expensive flowers or gifts for no reason ( if they've not done that before)
• Getting a detailed daily itinerary from you so you won't cross paths
• Leaves early for work or comes home late more
• Claims to work overtime, yet no overtime on checks
• Mentioning a "friend" but never introducing you
• Too many visits to "friends"
• The he's/she's just a friend story
• Lying about where they've been or whom they are with
• Coming home late saying they " just lost track of time"
• Regular friends to both of you acting weird or embarrassed around you
• Offers to go to the store when they usually wouldn't
• Sends you to the store when they could easily go themselves
• Unknown cigarette butts in ashtrays
• Passenger seat position changes
• Changes in sexual behavior with you (may be more or less frequency) or different techniques
• Hiding Viagra
• Hiding condoms