Is it what you would do or would you expect to be done to you and why? Does it expand to other branches of life or just romantic partnership?
@itiswhatitis
I glossed over this question and didn’t answer it properly.
Yes I take that this is the way I should approach every branch of life.
If I demand trust from someone, I owe them honesty.
I think that’s the deal in any human relationship not only romantic.
Truth is when you are not being transparent with someone you are trying to take advantage of something.
Which is not completely evil per Se, if you are selling something and you are only focusing on the positive side when you pitch it, that’s natural interaction.
You are not acting upon pre established trust, you are trying to convince someone to give you what you want from them, and you are convincing that you give them what they want from you.
This is called transactional. And even here, if you are transparent and honest with your perspective buyer, you may earn their trust. Which is an immense value for anything.
If you were dishonest that trust will either never come or will be broken once they found out you lied them or withheld the truth.
You might get away with a one off (rip off if you will) but you are compromising the future with this buyer.
And I believe we do know the stated goal of our intention right from the start:
Do I want to rip off someone in a transaction or do I want to give them something that I truly believe is of value and being rewarded in kind for that?
The per might not know my intentions and be suspicious "just in case", but I do know. We know our goals.
In the past I worked those odd jobs where you were to rip off people by convincing them to buy something that was not reflecting its value and part of the job description was to seek it no matter what.
I know I have the skill set to potentially do that very well and profit from it. When I found out what the job enticed, I turned it down because it felt dirty to me.
So yeah, trust is sacred to me in this light.
I have to betray myself to break trust, and I rather do something else.
And of course this being my principle is what I expect from others as well.
Trust demands transparency and honesty and it is a one off deal breaker.
I don’t see it as extreme, I may even see it as extremely selfish if you want to see it from a different angle:
The value that you get from honesty and trust is far greater than the value you may get from cheating and taking advantage of someone’s trust in every area of life.
So choosing that will in the end benefit me the most.
