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Her comment about losing her Tuesday nights is so selfish. Here you are in obvious pain, and she's throwing herself a pity party.

I brought that up this morning and her response was, as usual, that's not what she meant. She said that's why she needs to take time to think about what she wants to say to make sure it comes out the right way

I said well that's not going to work if we're having a conversation. Why not just say the truth, be honest?

She said it's easy for you to say exactly what your thoughts are but it's not for me. I said well, when you say something and I react to it negatively, you say that's not what I meant, and you change your words. So how can I ever believe what you say?

She said I understand, it sounds like I'm just "people pleasing" you.

I'll find out tonight if that guy texted her Tuesday night or Wednesday morning. If Tuesday night he may have learned about her quitting when he started his shift. If Wednesday morning then I will point out the fact that a guy was thinking about her first thing in the morning and this didn't strike her as unusual.

Turns out I was off by one day. He texted her Tuesday morning.

I said so a man who is pretty much a stranger is thinking about you first thing in the morning and is comfortable with sending you a text? And you didn't see the red flag in this?

After a bit I said you know what, it doesn't sound like he is much of a stranger and maybe I just got luckier this time and stumbled onto something earlier

Then I told her if she wanted to cancel her resignation, no problem. I said this way you can keep the Wednesday night crew together and all of your work friends will be happy. This way her need to people please everyone regardless of consequence to her marriage is satisfied

What else could she possibly have meant by "There goes my Tuesday nights ... ?"

The more you say about her behavior here, the worse it gets. I’m convinced you’ve caught another EA in the making. She hadn’t learned shit.

I do linguistic analysis.

Something about "after all, it is a Wednesday night" bothered me, and I couldn’t put my finger on it until now.

My thoughts are that something other than "extra work" happens on Wednesday nights there. The same people try to work that shift together, for ine thing. And by saying what he said, it indicates there is a REGULAR activity happening Wednesday nights, and that your wife not only knows about it but has participated before.

You might want to take a look at her Wednesday behaviors before now. Look at the past Wednesday texts, and Thursday morning texts if you can.