I appreciate your perspective, grubs, even though I don't fully subscribe to it.
What you describe is how I feel in my darkest moments -- that she could be lying to my face as opposed to just trickle-truthing -- but your account of it isn't quite what happened: she had already confessed OM2 prior to her birthday party.
(Believe me, I do wonder how differently things might have turned out if I had been much less "ok" with that... at the time she was presenting it as over and done with, but I was pretty wet-behind-the-ears about how these things work.)
These next three weeks will likely be rough on you.
Feels to me more like I'm in limbo for these next (now two) weeks. I've been deliberately keeping messages light and answering a different question when she's asked how I am doing, so that she and our daughter can fully enjoy their trip together.
And thank you for your kind words, GotTheMorbs. I spoke to this prospective IC for a good 20 minutes on the phone and we seemed to have a reasonable conversational flow.
I'm not sure how to know how to evaluate whether he is going down the wrong path, or just digging in to something I don't think is relevant but turns out to be. It's yet another learning process for me.
My only concern is it gives WW the impression that this is my problem to solve and she just needs to stand back. But I think I understand enough now not to let that happen.
