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Thank you for your reply gr8ful, I haven’t even thought about how I would act if she did a U turn and decided to try again, I can see how many people would be able to fall into that trap because as I am betrayed I crave validation and love and it would be easy for her to give that to me if she chose to.

I am and always have been of the mindset that cheating is the only thing we would never survive and I don’t think that I would fall for that trap.

I’ve already failed at grey rocking her but i know it’s what I need to be doing, otherwise I’m there to pick up the pieces of the mess she has created and leaving less time to focus on myself and my own healing.

It feels like I’m back to square one every time i have a conversation with her, and being empathetic i can’t help but take on her problems when i should be worried about my own, im stuck between wanting to never speak to her again and wanting a healthy relationship for our daughter.

It’s tough out here right now!

It feels like I’m back to square one every time i have a conversation with her, and being empathetic i can’t help but take on her problems when i should be worried about my own, im stuck between wanting to never speak to her again and wanting a healthy relationship for our daughter.

For your own sanity, I would strongly suggest grey-rocking her. Only speak to her on matters regarding your daughter or the D. If she tries to engage in absolutely anything else, simply say, "If we were not getting a D, that topic might be relevant". And then walk away. Get to physical separation asap, but working with your attorney first to ensure there’s no false "abandonment" accusation against you.

If she starts getting nasty, look into utilizing one of the co-parenting apps out there. Be sure to have a voice recorder on your person at all times. Some unsuspecting men have been dragged away in cuffs due to false DV accusations. And those men were "sure" their adulterous wives would never sink so low…..