JustTiredAndSad (original poster new member #84037) posted at 7:53 PM on Monday, July 22nd, 2024
Today is our 24th wedding anniversary.
It all just seems so …. hollow.
He’s trying and things have been good recently. Then today comes and I feel so incredibly stupid for still being with a man who could so easily throw our marriage away for sex.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 2:58 AM on Tuesday, July 23rd, 2024
{{Hugs}}
Sending hugs. Infidelity sucks. I remember the first wedding anniversary after the A. I told him that I wasn't celebrating anything, and I'd take the day minute by minute. I spent most of the day crying in bed. The second was a little better and I filed for D the week before the third.
Be kind to yourself and remember that practicing self-love is not selfish.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Weather13 ( new member #84029) posted at 8:16 AM on Tuesday, July 23rd, 2024
I feel your pain. It's my silver wedding anniversary in two weeks and I just had to kick my H out on the weekend.
Still reeling and wondering how the hell I got here.
A wise poster told me to ignore the sunk costs fallacy.
I wish you strength. It makes you feel such a fool, doesn't it?
Still figuring it out.
Was attempting R.But now seeing D lawyer.
Me BS 51 WH 63 DD 24 June 2023Disclosure 25 - 26 JuneTT July to November. Then March this year.Lifelong severe porn addiction descending into subjects I find abhorrentMarried 24 ye
Webbit ( member #84517) posted at 8:32 AM on Tuesday, July 23rd, 2024
I’m sorry to see you struggling but so completely understandable. You’re not stupid, he was! You do you on this day, you deserve to pick and choose everything and if that means lying in bed all day eating ice cream then so be it.
I felt so confused on our wedding anniversary this year, first one since the affair. I had booked us a trip away but had no idea what emotions I would feel. I also said no gifts what so ever. I just concentrated on it being a holiday rather than an anniversary trip. That seemed to help me.
But for my M anniversaries will be known as a celebration of not being divorced. That’s something right 🤷🏼♀️
