Topic is Sleeping.
tornapart2010 ( new member #82337) posted at 3:15 PM on Friday, July 5th, 2024
1. I blamed myself. Focused solely on my own sense of failure over the end of a marriage while completely overlooking the fact that it was something that had been done to me, not something that I did.
2. Compromised on so many of my own boundaries in an effort to reconcile
3. Putting off seeking therapy for longer than I should have done. Once you lay it all out (and I mean *all*) in front of someone else there comes a lightbulb moment where you realise that it was not your fault, that you were in fact living for a very long time with a covert narcissist.
4. Not reaching out to friends and family for support earlier.
5. Allowed myself to be diminished to the point that I lost all sense of who I am and what my needs are.
tornapart2010 ( new member #82337) posted at 3:27 PM on Friday, July 5th, 2024
6. Keeping it a secret to "protect her" and still being loyal and pick me while she was cheating on me daily.
Oh yes and that one! In my case keeping it secret to protect the possibility of reconciliation
Topic is Sleeping.
