There was a thread in general about past sexual history influencing your choice of partner (can’t remember the exact title). Some posters had pretty wild younger years and still are faithful when they gotten married.
I don’t see why, after experiencing anything else than monogamy, one cannot be monogamous.
the is a difference between sowing wild oats before you are
married and after with an OM.
when single a woman had sex with many BF's
when each relationship ended she was done and did not
want any more contact/sex because she was done with him.
this WW was not done with her OM. she pushed to keep the
swinging continuing. when she could not get her BH to go
along she then cheated. she cheated for 5 years. she was
never going to stop. she only stopped because she got caught.
this WW was not finished with this OM.
this couple are not going NC with the OM and the OMW
because they will not expose to this PA to their mutual circle
of friends, letting their kids be friends. this situation is
allowing contact to continue rather then the WW and the BH
this WW is highly addicted to her OM. with contact
continuing eventually this WW will cave into her addiction.