Gdthissucks, I'm so sorry that you went through this shit show..
I will no longer allow this woman or any other like her to hold my life back.
You are doing the right things!
I have known some people that are gamers, some of them are completely disconnected from reality and the real world, they have no real sense what marriage and real life is, my guess is your soon to be ex-wife in one of them.
I would like to suggest some nice books for you to read:
1- What Women Want In A Man - by Bruce Bryans
2- The Married Man Sex Life Primer - by Athol Kay (Don't let the title fool you!!)
3- No More Mr Nice Guy - by Robert A. Glover (PDF version downloadable free online)
You are in a very good place compared to some betrayed spouses here, but this books can help you even more and its an eye opener as how truly the relationship dynamics work between man and women!
good luck buddy, you doing good!