Update
We had a long chat and we’re in agreement about how to move forward.
Likewise if after 6 days I sent a text it would be because I'm pining for you a little. But why could be various reasons.
Maybe I felt like my needs werent being met, and I decided to see how you'd react. But, I couldn't stick to the game, and convinced myself maybe you're waiting for me and give in to my urge. However, if I'm doing this, it means I've already started to feel as though I should be moving on but at the same time am still sniffing some of that Hopium. Hoping something might change
This is what’s happened. He also does not want to appear needy, so he was waiting for me to contact him.
This relationship isn't making you feel good. You've explained some of your needs and he can't meet them.
Partly true. this relationship makes me feel great, except when he doesn’t answer a question. He never goes silent, even if he doesn’t reply to a text he’ll send another text, but it doesn’t answer the question I asked. During the past few days if I had contacted him first I’m sure that he would respond.
When I hurt him before it was completely my fault, not a misunderstanding. I didn’t date for many many years and have been learning the process again and I made a mistake. Even after that i knew he felt hurt but he never went silent. Seeing how my ex was the king of the punishing silent treatment, that would be a deal breaker for me.
I am very comfortable that he has the qualities that are important to me andI’m not worried about his character or intentions. He also was not having his needs for met - he did tell me but I didn’t deal with it as was focused on my own frustration with his texts.
We’ve been dating for several months and I’m going very slowly so I’ll see any problems before I get emotionally invested. Since we haven’t been physical yet and aren’t exclusive, we both know that we’re free to date others so my options (and his) remain open. I like that he respects my pace and my boundaries.
Thanks to everyone for the pointers. It’s been very helpful for me to hear your views.
[This message edited by Hopeful Lady at 4:10 PM, October 16th (Wednesday)]