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Definitely reach out to the OBS. She needs to know that her marriage is in trouble because your wife is going to put on a full court press to try to steal this guy.

Probably won't work because only a fool would trade his loyal wife for a woman capable of adultery. Not to mention that he'll end up being a part time dad to his own kids and be a full-time dad for another man's kids. Which is the main reason men usually don't leave for their affair partner. But that won't stop him from playing like he's considering it to get the porn like sex your WW is about to offer up.

So put the kabash on that by informing the OBS that your STBX is on the prowl.

As for you, it's time for a hard 180 and have her served at work. If you haven't already, expose to her family. EVERYTHING.

Work on yourself. gym, clothes, hair, hygiene, ETC. This is not for other women. Just to boost yourself up. If you feel like talking or worst yet crying. DON'T. Come here and spill your guts out. There will be some who has been in your shoes to talk to.

I just want the drama to end.

In three months I haven't had any peace from this. From the process of discovery to a mental break and then almost a second mental break when I found out it didn't end.

This guys family has half a chance. As much as I hate the jerk because he knew what he was doing to all the families I don't feel his wife deserves the drama. If he's genuinely done with the affair his wife should be able to see it or not see it. They are together longer and it was so apparent to me she wasn't ready to reconcile.

I feel good today. I have my self respect back. I look the best I have in a while. I got away from fitness two years ago when my kid was born. I was into CrossFit just prior and in the best shape of my life then. Now I'm trim and muscular. Almost have a six pack for the first time since I was a teenager.

I want all from here to go smoothly. Agree on our terms of separation and d. No point in serving her at work. Maybe it's enough that she knows that what she did to the best man she'll ever have.

I took the high road when I didn't beat her ap to death when I showed up at his house. I did not when I had a revenge affair and it helped contribute to my poor mental state.

We unfortunately will be in each other's lives for the remainder of ours because of our daughter together.

I've been able to be a spiteful and vengeful prick. Continuing to be that way will interfere with a healthy relationship on the future. Unfortunately this isn't the first cheating in my relationships. A long time girlfriend of 4 years was doing it and I could never prove it. I left on suspicion alone because I'd never be comfortable I knew enough to be 99 percent certain

I need to come away from this better so that I can be a good role model for my daughter and partner to another woman.

Thanks all for listening to my madness.

David,

OM's spouse may not deserve the drama, but drama is likely coming her way with the change that your to-be XWW will likely be hooking back up with OM. Whether they (OM and OM's BW) are together or not, that is going to suck for her.

Telling her of the pending divorce would be the kind thing to do.

I wish you well in your healing and I hope you find a life with less drama. However, don't bet the farm that your TBXWW will not decide to go for the jugular in the D. Selfish liars and cheats rarely become empathetic, kind souls overnight.

Just be prepared for hell and if you don't get it, GREAT.