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smokenfire ( member #5217) posted at 8:02 PM on Monday, August 21st, 2017
It's easy to feel that way sometimes, but that's because we are only looking inward. I guarantee you wouldn't have to look hard to find purpose in the town you live in. There are groups and outreaches all over.
You can't feel sorry for yourself. You made some bad choices and now you are facing the music. It's painful but you have two choices, change who you are and participate in life or play the victim and let life happen to you.
Have you read any books? Check out the healing library, the link is in the upper left hand corner, yellow box
Don't food shop when hungry, or date when you're lonely
How others treat you IS a reflection of your SELF worth, but not your actual WORTH.
penitentwoman (original poster new member #59948) posted at 1:02 AM on Tuesday, August 22nd, 2017
i don't feel sorry for myself. there is no self-pity, no poor me. i am not a victim. i am a destroyer. i am a murderer. i killed a family. i killed the one i promised to love and cherish. i am absolute scum. no pity. just facts. beyond hope. beyond help.
alone
smokenfire ( member #5217) posted at 1:27 AM on Tuesday, August 22nd, 2017
What I was saying is that you can sit in that mindset, or you can find someone worse off then you and help them. Turn your eyes ever so slightly outward. This will give you purpose and intention.
You can embrace your mistakes and then lie down and die with them OR you can choose to be a different kind of person altogether and go on to lead an amazing life.
It really is a choice I promise you
Don't food shop when hungry, or date when you're lonely
How others treat you IS a reflection of your SELF worth, but not your actual WORTH.
Robisme ( new member #59876) posted at 2:34 AM on Tuesday, August 22nd, 2017
I'm in the same position. I just want the love of my life back. I can't believe I did this. We are seperated right now and I've done everything I can think of to save my family. I ruined everything and I'm paying the price.
husband999 ( member #59598) posted at 3:59 AM on Tuesday, August 22nd, 2017
What are you willing to do to change your circumstances? Do you know that you are the only one with power to change it? But that it has to be an active choice. Even if you struggle or fail, you have to start again and try harder. Allowing yourself to slip into the abyss of depression and inaction will not solve anything. I know from experience. I know it seems safer to just lay down and wait for the end to come, but you have to fight this way of thinking. If anything you can at least know that you gave it everything even If you aren't successful in repairing your marriage.
theaterguy ( member #58778) posted at 2:17 AM on Wednesday, August 23rd, 2017
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Head held high...Mistakes don't define us, how we handle them does.
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