Wife cheated on me while fighting Stage 4 cancer
Well this is my story. My wife cheated on me while I’m recovering from Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer. It came to light due to her having to resign from her job before she would’ve got fired after her employer investigated it. The infidelity took place over 3 to 4 month time period or at least that’s what she said. She works in a job where she’s in a "position of trust" which mean she violated that due to who she cheated on me with.
I use to work in her same profession years ago and still know a lot of people around there. When I came down with cancer it changed my world and I was in a fight for my life, she said she understood why I couldn’t do somethings we use to or at least we would have to wait while I recovered.
My first feelings after it happened was disappointment, betrayal, sadness, embarrassment and anger.
I feel what she did was diabolical on so many levels. She currently in therapy and seeking help. I feel based off what she’s telling the therapists, they would be led to believe her act was because she had to endure my cancer diagnoses , and stress from her job.
I feel no one besides her job is holding her accountable for what she did. Thank god I was already financially stable before having cancer and can maintain everything without her working but it scares me that she would do such a selfish act while I have cancer and she was the only one working, which under different circumstances could’ve buried us financially.
I told her now I don’t trust her not one bit. I’m 51 and she’s 52 but cheated on me with a 19yr old in a correctional facility who’s incarcerated on assault charges.
When I asked her why? Mainly why him? She said he showed her attention. I couldn’t process it. Like if you knew my wife especially when she is at that job, she’s the co-worker that most don’t like because she’s strictly by the book. That’s why for her to get compromised at work by a convict is mind blowing.
The shock is still so traumatic to me. Everyone at her job that got in touch with me said leave/divorce her ASAP.
I talked to her family and I hate when they say " Well I’m not trying to take sides" there’s no sides to take. That assumes that two people did something of equal or greater value, which I didn’t do nothing. I feel by them saying that, they just took a side.
Now she’s at home with me everyday, and all this keep running through my head. I told her now she will have a misdemeanor on her record for the rest of her natural life, at 52yrs old.
Her family I feel is not giving her true, hard facts. They’re giving her "feeling good" support instead of realistic support.
I feel the betrayal is like an onion with so many layers that all need to be pealed back and exposed before true remorse and accountability can be achieved.
I don’t know what my future may bring and if she will be in it.
5 comments posted: Friday, May 8th, 2026
