The mind games to don't allow you to move forward...
First time poster, long time follower of many of the stories on this forum.
My wife cheated just over 4 years ago and had a very short couple of months affair. I have been struggling ever since. Things haven’t got any easier, they have just changed. In fact everything about my life and about my marriage has changed.
One of the things that has stuck in my mind and I can’t seem to get away from is the fact that she had sex with another man.
For the people that are in the same posistion, how did you allow you mind to move away from the fact that they have stayed, they have said they are sorry, but they still have been else where. How do you feel less stupid while the affair was going on, but just as stupid for trying to accept it and forgive knowing what you know.
I look at my wife and she says she loves me but some where inside my mind keeps reminding me that she was with another man. It’s like he was better, he was more fun, she desired him sexually.
Im never going to be as exciting as an affair. But all I think of is she is making do with me. Im not what she wants.
How do you move past the feelings and not let is destroy what you have left or what your trying to fix?
8 comments posted: Thursday, August 28th, 2025
