Husband had emotional affair with married coworker years ago. I suspected but only recently has he admitted it.
He claims he had no romantic feelings, physical desires, no crush, no limerence, just emotional closeness, even though she is attractive and a few years younger.
Is that possible?
I don't think so but he swears he never had romantic feelings or thought about wanting to be physical with her.
They laughed a lot, spent time alone, got to know each other well and were close, he went out of his way to spend time her at work, enough that he got "too attached", admits it was an emotional affair but is sticking to his story he wanted nothing more from her.
I'm really having a hard time believing this is possible.
BTW, I was suspicious and told him so and tried to connect with him about my fears with him and her but he stonewalled me and told me they were just friends and was secretive about how much time he spent getting to know her, and kept the depth of the friendship from me.
It caused me a lot of trauma and it has changed me and affected how I have felt in the marriage ever since. Not safe and not valued, even though years later he started treating me decent again.
It went on for 18 months.
Feed back appreciated.
Jaded Lady
10 comments posted: Wednesday, July 2nd, 2025
