How could she do this to me?

My wife went out last weekend with her friends and was staying out for the night (sharing the room with a friend), she gave me a kiss and promised she'd message me during the night and left. I got a message nearly 7 hours later when she was getting ready to go to bed, couple of messages back and forth, including a message saying she thought she'd broken her toe, got my head down and went to sleep.

She was due to be at work early the next morning. 2 hours after she should have started work I was heading out to the shop and would pass where she had stayed the night. As I got near, I got a message, "she hadn't gone to work but would be home soon". I rang her (thinking she might need something for the pain), no answer, no answer. I passed where she had stayed and her car was in the car park. I carried on driving, went to the shop, rang her, no answer.

About to head home, I checked her location and she was still there, rang her, no answer. I had a gut feeling and on my way home I turned into the car park. Rang her, no answer.

The place she stayed was a motel type of place, and I could see from when I checked her location pretty much where she/her phone was. This place has a row of 10 rooms and a row of 4, her location said she was in the row of 4. I parked up and could see that 3 of the 4 had already been vacated, so I knocked on the door of the 1 still in use. No answer.

I asked an employee if they could help me, they said they would go get someone.

The manager came out, I explained the situation, pointed out my wifes car, explained what was going on - to be told my wife was in the room I had knocked on with another man.
The manager told me the man she was with had just called reception saying they were ready to leave, but wouldn't until I left. The managers advice was to leave and deal with my wife when she got home.

I sent my wife a message calling her a 'cheat', within minutes she was calling me. She was all of a sudden driving home, I told her about what had happened, what I'd been told, we both got home and we had it out.
She denied everything, anything I said she had an answer for. She told me she stayed in a different room number, told me if I had gone into reception I would have seen her eating breakfast, we must have missed each other by seconds, her phone was in the room on charge etc.

I didn't want to believe what she had done.
The next morning I went back to the hotel to complain that I had been told something that could destroy my marriage. It was the same manager, during our discussion they showed me evidence that the room my wife says she was in on the night, it was empty! They obviously couldn't show me CCTV footage, but they told me that they saw her arrive and go straight to the room and not check in, they told me she was in the bar during the night with a man, not her friends. They told me she was not having breakfast on the morning like she said she was. She told me something was on the TV in the bar, the manager told me they don't have that channel.
They told me after I left they collected the keys from the room, spoke to the man who apologised about the trouble, saying my wife told him she was separated. The manager told me my wife was stood in the room, back to the door. I asked them to describe her, and they described my wife exactly!!

Why would the hotel lie? My wife denies everything, but cannot provide any proof...maybe her word should be good enough, but everything the hotel have told me, shown me, suggests she has cheated.

Really random idea, I mean, we are not kids but with our marriage hanging by a thread, with nothing else to prove to me, she could ask her 3 or 4 friends to contact me, reassure me that it is somehow mistaken identity and they were together...but getting them to do that if they weren't there, she had cheated, well....clearly she couldn't.

If she had simply gone to work, none of this would have happened, I'd have had no reason to be calling her, no 'gut feeling' to go into the hotel. Maybe she would have still done whatever has happened, but I'd be oblivious.

65 comments posted: Wednesday, May 8th, 2024