Just found out wife cheated

I just found out yesterday that my wife of 12 years had an affair when on a work trip in Chicago. I had a weird gut feeling that something was going on. She had gone on other trips for work when she and her family owned another business, but this time something felt different.

Her flight arrived home on Monday evening, and she said she was incredibly tired. She placed her phone on her charger and went to lay down. I guess the saying goes be careful when you snoop because you may not like what you find. There were texts from her "boss" saying things like he wished she was coming home to him, etc. There were casual texts from her to him but nothing overly out of line. I questioned her about the texts, and she said that he had sent some inappropriate texts, but she nipped them in the bud. I asked her not to lie to me and she swore up and down that this was the extent… nothing physical happened. The next morning, I asked to check her phone – she agreed. I pulled up the deleted texts, when I mentioned I was going to look at these texts she immediately tried to grab her phone from me… the sexting that was going on was out of control. She admitted that they kissed a couple of times, but when he pushed for more said to him that that was reserved for her husband… BS! She called me when she landed but at the same time was texting him saying how she wants his hands all over her body and was he thinking of her when he was in the shower – with sexual emojis in the text. He texted her about how he wants to F*** her and do all sorts of things to her.

This is such an unbelievable soul-wrenching pain. We also have two young kids to consider. She says she wants to make amends but I am just so unbelievably hurt, disgusted, and broken right now… I just don’t know what to do. I can hardly type this as my hands can’t stop shaking. We are still in the same house, I haven’t left because I am really close and love my kids so much. This morning, she asked for a hug – which I vehemently refused. Sorry if this is random – it’s all just so raw, new, and painful right now.

55 comments posted: Monday, March 25th, 2024