Do they ever care about their destruction?

Married 23 years - Both Mid 40s

2 months ago my wife (now estranged) announced she had been having an affair for 4 months. She said she wanted to leave me (and my just secondary school age) kids. The kids saw and heard all this.

She then ran away to her evil friend and took the kids !!! Even though I am a stay at home dad. She still sees kids as I was forced into agreeing a 50/50 split. Solicitors now running things.

Turns out it is some guy from work. So I think 4 months is a lie.

8 weeks in she is trying to force this guy to meeting my kids. They have seen things from her moving out 2 days after she left, that no child should ever have seen. She asked them to pack her stuff for her. Sick !!!

She is not acting like the mother she was and now has a place ready for him to share with her. She is obsessed with this guy.

My kids have asked to see a shrink and support from school and the church I go to.

2 questions please

Is 8 weeks too soon for my kids to meet this homewrecker?

No lady I have spoken to can understand how she could do any of this and lie to her kids for 4 months pretending we were still a family. Particularly as they are now receiving professional support.

Do people with experience of Infidelity recognise this kind of behaviour or has she lost the plot?

I am still in pieces, she carries on like life is normal and does not care about anyone other than herself.

Thanks for any help

8 comments posted: Saturday, September 30th, 2023