Me/WS 36Him/BS 38 2 Boys (18/15)
BS is focusing on my healing instead of his
So, our Dday was just one week ago. My ap was his best friend, so he has lost him as well. Ive not had time or energy to post my story yet, but I do need help. I have taken full responsibility for the affair. I have repented and asked for forgiveness. BS decided one day after DDay that he would forgive me and that we would make it through this with God as our strength. He still breaks down every now and then but tries to regain self control as quickly as possible. I have reassured him that I know I have betrayed him and that it's normal for him to be in so much pain. Ive apologize over and over for causing all this pain. His response lately is that he wants to focus on me and my healing. I dont know how to make him see that Im the one that needs to give him all the support and attention. I feel unworthy, vile, unclean, and I know I am undeserving of his kindness, grace, and compassion he has been giving me. The reason we are here in the first place is because I AM incredibly selfish and I would like to learn to be selfless and focus on him. How can I be selfless during this time and focus on his healing, instead of mine?
17 comments posted: Thursday, July 20th, 2023