Underwear off middle of night and shaving down there?

So my story is this. Married 3 decades... up and down marriage like most. I kinda neglected my H for a good 4 years sexually while in menopause. It was one of those times when sex hurt me. He def made use of porn which I was perfectly fine with.Fast forward to Dec 2023 when I guess I sort of woke up to life and noticed how much he was on his phone abd disconnected. I will say he does always read and works on his phone he also works from home. Anyway I confronted and told him we needed to talk about the marriage and work on it. He agreed to some therapy for his controlling and agressive behavior. We started having sex again in Dec like 3 times a week and it was the best ever. We still have sex a few times a week mostly me initiating. He has never been an aggressor in bed.. however he was much more affectionate. So i started to take note of his phone use and other behaviors. I did ask to see his phone in January and found nothing.. however my gut kept screaming at me to snoop
more. I found his reddits that look clean. However.. he had a ton of emails and more than one twitter. I asked to see them all... nothing there. He white lies on occasion so I guess this has made me lose some trust. Fast forward to now when i noticed he wakes up a few times a week with undwear off and he has shaved down there and shaves his face more then i ever noticed. I am guessing he is having an online affair but i cant catch it. He denies this and is very angry I have accused him. I do have a camera hidden at this point but only for audio because I can't leave it on record to catch anything as he is to smart and would find it. Monday I listened in after i left for errands... it recored what sounded like him getting off🤢 I wish I knew how i can confirm this? I know it sounds strange.

5 comments posted: Friday, June 23rd, 2023