They say "Shit Could Be Worse" but I find that hard to believe.

Reconciled? 6.5 years after DDay. Will sex come back?

Here I am 6 1/2 years after DDay. My wife's affair was long ago but I found out years later. If I had found out about it when it happened, I am sure that I would have divorced her. I feel that the time between the affair and me finding out was all lies. Every photograph and every memory are now tainted. Anyway, I am pretty much over all of the pain and triggers. I still have frequent reminders and I think about it daily, but nothing stings anymore. I can drive by a motel where they went, and I am not bothered anymore. I used to be paralyzed!
I never bring up the affair and neither does she. She does not like talking about it, so I quit asking.

We get along great together. We are close and do pretty much everything together. The only issue is sex. I have NO interest. NONE. I do not want to touch or be touched in that way. Sex scenes in movies bother me. They really bother me. I contacted the other man when I found out and I sort of harassed him you could say. He once said to me " could your wife cum? Oh, you wouldn't know" I asked my wife about what he said to me, and her response was that I was harassing him is why he said that. She did not deny she gave him that information, as a matter fact she admitted that she told him that. To have your wife's lover tell you that you are no good in bed is a real ego killer.

Nothing in my life turned out like I thought or hoped it would. My children! That's a whole another story. Let's just say they didn't turn out like I had hoped. I had a retail business most of my life. Most of my customers were liars and thieves. My employees were mostly liars and thieves also. My only safe haven was home, and that was shit also, even though I did not know it.

So now I will not have sex because I am not going to disappoint her ever again, and she will never have sex with me while thinking about someone else. Also, she will never compare me to someone else again. For me sex with my wife was a "Special Privilege". Now it is neither. I do love her. If she gets sick, I will wipe her butt and take care of her. I will gladly give my life to protect her and to provide for her. Sex is off the table for me. Will it ever come back?

11 comments posted: Tuesday, October 24th, 2023