Not Functioning

Not sure if this is the right forum, since I'm on day 10 since finding out about the EA. We talked it out, made a plan and were going to fix the marriage. Then he started contacting the OW again yesterday. He thinks it's probably limerence, but hasn't been able to pull away from the OW. I am just not functional right now. I've been trying to find a therapist since the day after I found out. None of them seem to answer the phone or call back. The one office that did respond has been texting me for a week and I still don't have an appointment. I do have an appointment with a lawyer, but I really want this to work. We both were going to go to individual counselors and do marriage counseling. I still love my H. It's like a death, but he's still there.

4 comments posted: Thursday, January 5th, 2023

Numb

I've been through days of crying and some anger after finding out my husband loves someone else. Now I'm just numb. He says he loves me too and has broken off the emotional affair. I want to work on our marriage and make this work because I do still love him. I don't think he truly realizes what this did to me or how long it will take to bring back any kind of normalcy in our life, let alone trust. He keeps talking about it like it isn't a big deal and is actually discussing his feelings about her and why in the long run their relationship wouldn't have lasted. I told him he needs to see a therapist or counselor to discuss not only these things, but other issues that contributed to why he did this.

I'm very alone right now as I have no real social network where we live and I do not want to bring my adult children, his steps, into it. When we work all this out, I don't want them having negative feelings toward him.

I appreciate this group. As I've read some of the posts, I realize I'm not alone in this, but also it really stinks that so many people have to go though this suffering. Any advice is appreciated.

5 comments posted: Thursday, December 29th, 2022