My husband made a pact to work on our marriage. He now answers my calls, calls me through out the day and has been less angry about life in general. Yet, his past discretions have caused me to fall into a state of depression and I have aneixty attacks. How do you guys pull through to work on your relationship when you have built walls to protect your heart and are suffering from depression and anxiety. I am seeing a therapist, but I don't take the medication. I tried it made me loopy and I am not someone who likes to take any medication. I started working out again and I feel like that does help. But I am still stuck on the how do we work on this relationship, if I feel so guarded all the time?
4 comments posted: Thursday, January 26th, 2023
Seeking Women who are staying in their and dealing with the emotional and physical struggles of their husbands choices
Hi all, I joined this page in hopes of finding women who I can talk to who are staying in their marriage even after their husband cheated.... I find that as I write in the forums, I am being judge for staying and being told to leave. My husband, cheated more then once... They were not affairs more like "hood rats" or as others would know them as fast women in a fast life. These women did not know much about him besides his ex. They actually did not even know his name... I know sad right. Well I am trying to deal with the aftermath and emotional torture that comes with infidelity. I am trying to forgive but not forget. It is hard everyday. He came out of prison and basically acted single when he left the house. We now have 2 children. It really bothers me that everytime I had a child he cheated. I feel so overwhelmed with emotion. I do not have a lot of people to talk too. This past time I actually stood up to him. It was kind of like taking my power back, which felt good. I told him we were done and he could go. He left in his car, but. drove right back and asked for a second chance. I cried and gave it to him, which I probably should not have because honestly how do you trust again. he said this time if he does anything he will just pack and leave. I am not sure if he is telling the truth, because all he does is lie... you see I am not like the trash he is use to being with. They only cared about the $$$, meanwhile I actually care and love him. I feel like I do not know myself anymore... I started therapy and have been working hard to make sure that I am working on myself. I would love to speak to other women in my situation who trying to mend what has been broken. How do you get through you day? I have 2 little girls that I have to be strong for, but I feel like inside I am falling apart...
33 comments posted: Friday, November 4th, 2022
Where do I begin... I fell in love.. hard. I thought we were so connected but he was not true. I waited years for my husband to come home. He did a significant amount of time, but I did not care. I just wanted to be with him. I had such high hopes..When he came home he cheated; I knew but tried so hard to act like I did not see the big red signs... I got pregnant with our daughter, I was still in my own little world. Hoping and praying he would come to his senses. I was contacted by a female on social media when I was 8 months pregnant. I blocked her but did ask him. He of course denied it. He then told me he cheated but not with her. I went into early labor due to all the stress. Our daughter was born sick. I spent hours/days in the NICU by my Childs side. He goes to work and is cheating with her. This women was stalking me online. Making fake profiles and sending such horrible messages. He claims he is doing nothing; well he was cheating with her. She was from his past and is very trashy. Sleeping with everyone. I was destroyed. I felt so betrayed and alone. He broke me.. I had a newborn and felt so alone.... Flash forward to 3 years later, I tried to make it work. We got pregnant again, he became distant again. I found him talking to some girl on his phone. Turns out he met her at a hotel and had sex with her. She claims she had a baby that died. The other claimed she was pregnant too. This time,I had my other daughter. She was only maybe 3 months old. I couldn't breathe. I felt my world crashing again. This time I told him we were over. I told him I could not be with a man who took me for granted. I have 2 girls to raise and I just cannot allow them to see their mother treated this way. he apologized asked for another chance and swears he will never do it again.
I feel like every time I get pregnant he finds me unattractive and cheats.. I have done so much for this man and love him so much. But how could he hurt me? I was 8 years faithfully for him to come home. I was all alone while he was incarcerated. I did not cheat on him so what gives him the right to cheat on me? How come he takes me for granted.... I do everything. He passed a comment that I do not get ready anymore... but I am running after 2 kids, taking care of a house, managing finances, cooking , cleaning. I'm not like the trash he finds to sleep with who just care about their looks and spread their legs.... I do not know how to deal with all these emotions. I feel so alone.... I feel like everything we built was worth nothing... his comments to me are always find another man he will cheat more. I told him my next relationship would be with a women. I do not understand his comments or how he could entertain another women. I do not even have a thought of another man... I am so heartbroken.
43 comments posted: Wednesday, November 2nd, 2022