Intimacy problems
Have been in the reconciliation process for 7 months. Actually for the most part she has done everything expected of her. She had an affair with someone at work for roughly a year. My biggest problem is intimacy with her. The thought of her with him always comes to mind when we’re having sex. The main problem is that I am unable to get or maintain an erection. Obviously this is an issue. The other thing and I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this is that when we attempt to be intimate everything I do seems to be wrong. There’s literally nothing I do that pleases her. Before the affair we never had these issues. She says I’ve changed but after 10 years of being together i find that hard to believe. Of course this only adds to my anxiety because I feel like she is wanting me to be like her lover. Just wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience and how they dealt with it.
8 comments posted: Sunday, January 15th, 2023
