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Whafdoido

He won’t admit it

Hi,

I found out about 2 weeks ago that my partner of 8 years had been having an affair (for about 10 months) he is yet to admit it.

The affair partner has told me everything and in all honesty I do believe it all, it all adds up.

He says she was just was a friend (a friend I had never heard of!!!!) and that it was nothing, someone to talk to.
I obviously don’t believe this.

He says he loves me and wants to be with me with.
I do understand that he could mean this and he could have huge regret with what he has done and can’t face the shame of having to admit it as it then becomes real.

Has anyone had this, where their partner will just not admit it even though the evidence is there?

I have spoken to a therapist and we are seeing them next week, he has suggested that my partner sounds as though he is in the denial stage.

I just don’t understand why he keeps lying, why can’t he just show me the respect I deserve and tell me the truth.

This has been the worst two weeks of my life, I feel like my whole life has been turned upside down!

13 comments posted: Saturday, October 1st, 2022

8 Month Affair

Hi,

My heart is breaking. I found out last week that my partner of 8 years and father of my two daughters has been having an affair - 8 months long.

I feel shocked, angry, in the most pain I have ever felt.
I’m only managing to get through each day because of the children and that’s a struggle.

He is still denying it however she has confirmed it and there is evidence that it is true - I had a gut feeling for the past few months also. He has said it was purely a friendship & someone to talk to and that he has stopped talking to her now

Where do I go from here. The man I loved, still love so much. Has done the worst thing, has broken all my trust, broken my heart.

I can’t think straight. Is all I feel now is I need to try and keep him - which is ridiculous, I feel pathetic.
We have shared 8 wonderful years together, the past year has thrown us some tests but I just can’t believe he has done this to me.

I can’t bear the thought of life without him.

8 comments posted: Tuesday, September 20th, 2022

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