Need advice
I found out my wife had a burner phone and was sending let’s say very descriptive audio and photos of herself to another guy. Also texts where they were trying to arrange to meet up in Sicily.
For the sake of our marriage and family I put this to one side . Though it’s not as raw as it once was I don’t think I have ever had 100% trust in my wife since which is quite depressing for me to deal with.
She now works in Italy every other week and spends 3 days there.
Given the history I was less than happy about her spending time abroad as I thought she may cheat on me again but have a physical relationship this time. I had to put it to one side and just hoped nothing would happen.
This week after her spending three years making business trips to Italy I heard loads of notifications on her laptop and she hadn’t closed it completely so it was unlocked . I saw she and this other italian guy were arranging to Meet in whatsapp. She said she didn’t meet him and that they were just old university friends. I translated more of their chat later on and saw they were telling each other they had arrived at a station in Milan. She then admitted she had met him once. Later in I spotted he has written "meet at the usual place" which meant obviously they had met several times. In his text he also said it would best best to choose certain days as he was alone (ie not with his wife). I challenged her again and she admitted she had met him several times and only kissed him in the cheek and cuddled. I was of course incensed and I didn’t sleep for 3 nights.she said she lied because if I found out she was seeing any man I would be suspicious which frankly seems ridiculous because I was aware she had many meals alone with her male work colleagues.
I am at a total loss as to what to do. She obviously is a serial liar. I don’t think she will ever tell me the truth so I can’t know whether the version of events now is accurate. It seems at every step she has to have the truth dragged out of her. This could be someone she is extremely fond of . She said he was funny and enjoyed his company but I think I’m at a point where I can’t suffer much more with it as it’s affecting my health.
I did say maybe his wife can’t get the truth out of him if she can’t be truthful at which she looked am scared . Not sure if this is because news would then get around his social circle which some of her friends shared or whether she was worried about the truth coming out . I thought why should I ruin his marriage when it’s my wife’s behaviour that is the problem.
24 comments posted: Saturday, August 6th, 2022
