When do you know its its worthwhile to reconcile?

I posted a long while in the Just Found Out forum. I left my husband 6months ago. My husband had a 7 month long affair, with a 28 year old Co-Worker. It was all just terrible, she ended up pregnant, which my husband thought he fathered. The worse of it was, he and I were trying for a baby, and months after I left, I found out, that Yes. I am pregnant. Long story short. I left, moved across the country, pregnant and alone. My Ex husband I have agreed that we needed to be there for our child. And over these months,its been heartbreaking and sad. I love my Ex, we had a great marriage, he was always a good husband, my rock gave me a good life. He has asked if I could ever take him back. I just avoided a straight answer. Communication dropped off other than check ins asking about the pregnancy. He and I saw each other for the first time in weeks or months July 4th. Since then he has been in constant contact. Sending me personal gifts and this letter that confessed he wanted me back. He wrote this letter to my parents apologizing for hurting me, and them and ruining everything. Hes been to counseling and has been adamant about reconciliation. I dont know what to think, my mind has been on the baby and adjusting to supporting myself, not thinking about my Ex. I have pregnancy brain so, I dont want to make any overly emotional or stupid decisions. But how do you know, if you WS is truly remorseful. Is he just lonely,or is he truly sad, he says our marriage meant everything, he made the biggest mistake. Those of you who have had success. How did you know that your WS was sincere.

21 comments posted: Monday, July 25th, 2022

My Husband Confessed to me his AP is pregnant with his baby. Now Divorcing

My Husband Confessed to me his AP is pregnant with his baby. I posted quite a bit on the Just found out forum. I have recieved incredible advice and encouragement. I moved to this forum because after a weekend with my husband. And just having good, honest conversation. After him flying home, he said he thought about me. How I must feel. How HE blew up our marriage and how he's dragging me at this point. There's no point of us being married. we no longer live together, I live 5 hrs away. I am pregnant, but I am able and willing to do this on my own. Long story short. He said he will sign the divorce papers. Now I have this new chapter to deal with. I also have to realize I'm a Single Mom. This just all hit me! Even though I know its what's best. I think I had a panic attack today. Any advice from those who may be further along and successful in the process. I would greatly appreciate it.

8 comments posted: Tuesday, March 29th, 2022

My Husband Confessed to me his AP is pregnant with his baby.

I left my husband January 28th. He confessed to having an affair with a co-worker for the past 7 months.She's now pregnant with his baby. I think I am still in shock. There's just so much to wrap my head around.
My husband is 46 we've been married for 17 yrs. Never had issues with infidelity. He did say that he was struggling with getting older. I always tried to comfort him, compliment him. He said he loved me so much,for being a wonderful wife. He's still in love with me. But he was very attracted to her sexually. She's a very beautiful woman, she's 28. No kids. He said he made a terrible mistake. He tried leaving her, but she threatened to make is life hell if he did. He's been trying to leave her. Sex stopped with her over a month ago. But now, she is 3 months pregnant. He said she trapped him. He told her he was telling me, she became extremely angry. Anyway, now my husband is becoming a father. He is going to care for the baby, but he's begging me for forgiveness.
We always have had a very close relationship, he was always a good husband. We started out as bestfriends from college, then dated then married.
He's never cheated before, never having suspected that he had or would have an affair. Just not in his character. He said she had a draw on him. He was addicted to the sex. He never felt a emotional connection to her. Either way. I'm crushed. I left him, I have been staying at a Airbnb, I asked him for space, and time to sort things out.
I think I want a divorce. But close friends say I should wait. Why, my husband is having a baby with another woman.
I don't think I can get past it. I do love him. I know that he loves me. I know my husband is absolutely miserable right now. He's been texting me constantly and calling, I blocked him, and he is going crazy. I feel terrible. I honestly do not know what to do next!
I don't want to be alone. I'm still inlove with my husband. But I can't live with my husband having a baby and a baby's mother to deal with.
I have read other post and read several articles which are helpful. Maybe some fresh perspective will help. I am just afraid of his reaction if I serve him with Divorce papers. I am very fair, I will walk away. I won't ask for anything. I am torn up. But I don't want to make this worse or be harsh. Our marriage was a wonderful one.
I just feel like I should just walk away.

285 comments posted: Tuesday, March 15th, 2022

Is Life on the other side better?

I'm about to go through with a divorce. Its been a few weeks since my husband confessed his affair and his AP is pregnant with his baby.
I have never felt such heartache and pain. I am still numb. My husband has begged for forgiveness and asked me to take time, but I cant live with knowing that another woman is pregnant with my husband. I want to end this amicable and I don't want to fight. I am filing on Tuesday. I just want to know, is it better after you've cut ties? This Affair is no longer my problem. It's his alone. I just want to be free from all this stress and pain.

30 comments posted: Tuesday, February 22nd, 2022

My Husband just confessed his AP is Pregnant

I left my husband January 28th. He confessed to having an affair with a co-worker for the past 7 months.She's now pregnant with his baby. I think I am still in shock. There's just so much to wrap my head around.
My husband is 46 we've been married for 17 yrs. Never had issues with infidelity. He did say that he was struggling with getting older. I always tried to comfort him, compliment him. He said he loved me so much,for being a wonderful wife. He's still in love with me. But he was very attracted to her sexually. She's a very beautiful woman, she's 28. No kids. He said he made a terrible mistake. He tried leaving her, but she threatened to make is life hell if he did. He's been trying to leave her. Sex stopped with her over a month ago. But now, she is 3 months pregnant. He said she trapped him. He told her he was telling me, she became extremely angry. Anyway, now my husband is becoming a father. He is going to care for the baby, but he's begging me for forgiveness.
We always have had a very close relationship, he was always a good husband. We started out as bestfriends from college, then dated then married.
He's never cheated before, never having suspected that he had or would have an affair. Just not in his character. He said she had a draw on him. He was addicted to the sex. He never felt a emotional connection to her. Either way. I'm crushed. I left him, I have been staying at a Airbnb, I asked him for space, and time to sort things out.
I think I want a divorce. But close friends say I should wait. Why, my husband is having a baby with another woman.
I don't think I can get past it. I do love him. I know that he loves me. I know my husband is absolutely miserable right now. He's been texting me constantly and calling, I blocked him, and he is going crazy. I feel terrible. I honestly do not know what to do next!
I don't want to be alone. I'm still inlove with my husband. But I can't live with my husband having a baby and a baby's mother to deal with.
I have read other post and read several articles which are helpful. Maybe some fresh perspective will help. I am just afraid of his reaction if I serve him with Divorce papers. I am very fair, I will walk away. I won't ask for anything. I am torn up. But I don't want to make this worse or be harsh. Our marriage was a wonderful one.
I just feel like I should just walk away.

7 comments posted: Thursday, February 17th, 2022