Dealing with Body Issues

I know I am talking about other issue in my other thread, but one issue is bothering me. Not just on a physical level, but also on a physiological level. I am starting another thread because I feel it is another issue to deal with. Before my wife's affair, she had gained weight. I didn't care. I was still totally obsessed with being with her. To me, she was still as perfect as when we met and got together in college. I mean that seriously. I wanted her constantly. After her affair, I notice the wrinkles, the weight, the sagging. I hate it. I hate it so much. Like I said in my other post, maybe I need to move on, but I hate the idea of it. I have returned to counseling to help me, but I feel like I am fighting myself sometimes.

0 comment posted: Sunday, August 23rd, 2026

Wife has done everything right, but reconciliation in failing

My wife had an affair almost 6 years ago. She has done everything right since then, but I am falling out of love with her. I don't know what to do anymore. I mean, she had an affair with a younger, more attractive man and larger man (down there), but a total loser in every other way. He was jobless, with no prospects, using older women to support his lifestyle. He literally had no job, no prospects, dropped out of college, but my wife went for him because he was young and attractive and fed her ego. Now she totally rejects what she was, but I just don't care anymore. I loved her, found her beautiful, but after the affair, my feelings slowly ebbed. It's like the more effort she put in, the worse my feelings got. I just hate to ruin 25 years of marriage, but I have so many options. I work out at the gym all the time. So many attractive women in the wings. I know that sounds horrible, but what am I supposed to feel? Maybe it is time to divorce and move on. I need some perspective.

51 comments posted: Monday, July 20th, 2026