I feel like a hostage

My story is long. Probably no longer than most on here though. TL/DR version is he is a serial cheater, narcissist, and he's sexually assaulted me by not listening to the word no.

Currently I'm not in a good place so I guess I'll start with that. I've started filing for separation at the end of last month and my STBXH found out before I even had the consultation. I have been cornered for 'talks' which amount to gaslighting and emotional manipulation attempts. They're emotionally exhausting. The most recent one was when I came home to find the children gone (he left them with my parents) and he wanted to 'talk' again. I have been doing well in that I'm mostly not letting him get to me. I actually laughed and told him that these talks were him trying to get me to do what he wanted, not to work out any issues we have.

My main issue is that he can pull this shit at any point because he's still in the house. It's torture. I can start paperwork on a divorce from bed and board but that'll go at the speed of the courts which means months. I don't know if I can last that long.

Now that I think I've written far down enough, I'm a refugee from reddit as well. He found my posts there and was responding to them. I'm hoping I can contact my lawyer tomorrow and see where she's at with the paperwork. Any legwork I can do to speed things up I'll do.

So hello fellow folks in hell. Sorry to see you guys here.

4 comments posted: Monday, September 6th, 2021