Found someone great relatively quickly

Hi all, I haven't posted in a while, but wanted to check in. My quick backstory - discovered my wife was having an 18-month long distance affair way back at the end of November last year. Attempted to work through it and assumed reconciliation was most likely, but after about 3 months, I realized it was better to move on. Divorce has mostly been amicable (some tenser moments for sure, but we're using a collaborative approach) and while it's not totally done, there's light at the end of the tunnel.

I started trying to date again in March - very quick by most "standards" on here, I know, but after almost 15 years with one person, I felt I needed to get out there, and my therapist was encouraging. I've been on dates with a dozen women or so, and in most cases even had second or third dates with them - huge confidence booster as you can imagine.

I even met someone great over the summer - things progressed slowly at first but then got somewhat serious through Labor Day. And while it may not last (she's unsure about whether she is truly ready to deal with an ex and two kids from that marriage), it has been so great to realize I can move on and get butterflies again. Sure, there's scars, but if I can pull this off, I know others can do the same. I agonized a bit about "being ready" but realized that was mostly an excuse - there's no such thing as "ready". Getting out there and testing the waters (and I definitely stumbled quite a bit at first - happy to share the grim/hilarious details if anyone wants ) is the best way to get over the hump sometimes.

Anyway, just wanted to share. Sending love to this wonderful community.

10 comments posted: Monday, September 27th, 2021