BS: Me (still in shock) WH: Unremorseful covert narcissist 3+ year long EA/PA. DDays: Several (summer 2019) Married 14 years. Divorced (summer 2020) Food for thought: "Let go or be dragged"

My Ex-WH has been arrested, convicted and is going to jail

It's been a long time since I've posted. I'm hoping for some guidance or feedback. My ex-WH (we divorced June 2020) has been arrested, convicted and is going to prison for nine months.

The story: Ex-WH was with his mistress from 2018-2021. At some point during his relationship with her, he started cheating on her with her daughter - who was only 17 at the time. Yes, you read that correctly. He continued sleeping with the 17 year old for a year and a half. Sleeping with both of them at the same time.

When this all came out, the mistress had him arrested and he pled guilty. Even though it was consensual, it's still considered rape because she is under 18. He also had inappropriate contact with her 14 year old son, although I don't know what that type of contact was. But it's also been labeled as rape. And that is how his conviction record reads on all counts. It's a horror story.

His first two counts of rape were while we were still married (just two months before our divorce was final). He had long since moved out. I've been applying for jobs and if I'm hired, they will do a background check on me. My question is - will I be flagged somehow on my background check because of my association with a sex offender felon? I can't believe I am having to even ask these questions. This is very scary to me. I've written to our divorce lawyer to ask for legal advice for my own protection, and I'm waiting to hear back. Perhaps there's someone here who might be able to speak about this, or someone who has been in this situation and knows about these things. As I said, it's a horror story.

On a side note:
He may have cheated on me with her, but he cheated on her with her own daughter.
For me, the other woman is a stranger. For her, the other woman is her daughter.
If that's not poetic justice for a betrayed wife then I don't know what is.

Thanks to anyone who might know if I might be flagged (guilty by association) in background checks, or in any other public or private records.
LL

18 comments posted: Friday, October 28th, 2022