Being supportive during difficult times?
My W’s mother has been hospitalized for the last several months and is going to pass very soon. My W is dealing with all the healthcare issues, her two siblings aren’t very supportive or helpful. Her father who is poor health himself is taking out his frustrations on my W and being difficult.
I’m finding it very difficult to be supportive of my w too. I’ve been worried since DDay how I would handle a situation like this after all the support I gave my W when she was sick. I don’t know how to explain it but it feels like I’m pulling away from the situation and my W. Pre A I would have leaned into it and been a rock now it’s almost like I don’t care.
Has anyone dealt with any thing like this or gone through a hard time after the A and had trouble being supportive.
11 comments posted: Sunday, October 23rd, 2022
Major blow out need help
Had a major blow out with my WW tonight and things got ugly. I told her I was going to stay with my parents tomorrow.
My dday anniversary is in two weeks and my marriage anniversary is the following week. I have been upset the last few days and she hasn’t said a word to me about why I’m upset just stuff like why are you grouchy.
Today I texted to tell her and said I was going to run some errands and go to my parents and I be home later at night. Her response was "are you having some sort of issue with me this week" I responded " idk I’m just having a hard time this week just that time of year I guess" and then nothing. So a few hours later I texted her and said " based off of your response I guess you don’t care" her response " I’m just trying to finish my work so I can leave"
When I got home she completely ignored me until I was going to bed and she wanted to go down the street to her aunts.
Anyway we argued and she blamed me the whole time about how she’s been walking on egg shells for two years and I don’t want to heal and I’ve been hanging it over her head. So I told her how she’s not even sorry and doing any work. Idk It was ugly I told her I hated her and wished she died.
She gave me my rings back and went down to her aunts house and Never came home.
Funny thing about this whole argument is I knows this was going to happen it’s the same argument every time "you’re not sorry or doing any work" "her talking about her feelings and how I do t want to heal"
Idk what to do part of me is relieved I guess but I feel super sad that she wouldn’t work towards R.
I guess I’ll be heading towards D, there’s nothing else to be said she’ll never get it.
I’ve decided I’m not going to my parents she should be the one to leave we wouldn’t have that house if it weren’t for the money I saved before we met and she’s the one that destroyed us.
17 comments posted: Saturday, September 25th, 2021