DDay Oct 3, 2019; M 23 years - WH EA 2012; WH month-long PA 2019; 2 kids: high school, college (neither know)
4 years in, fwh changing for better, but so different - any experience?
Greetings SI Community,
Our first 3 years after D-Day were hard. Around the 3-year mark, FWH started making major changes. He made healthy rules to live by (physical and social), started revealing his vulnerabilities/inner sadness (very new), started IC again, and found religion (I don't mean that lightly - it has really changed him).
My question is, how do you move forward when the person is so vastly different? With so much change, I'm afraid to get attached to the "new him," because it might not be long-lasting.
My guard is still up. He wants more connection, and I'm holding back. For 14 years these roles were reversed - I wanted connection and he kept me at arms length - plus 3 years of post-A debris. Being rejected that many years makes it hard to just jump in!
Has anyone else struggled with this process?
12 comments posted: Thursday, December 7th, 2023
