Me: BS 59 at DDayWH: 61 at DDayMarried: 27 years at DDay DDay: 22 March 2019 I love him and have forgiven him. He’s very contrite.

4 years ago today

4 years ago today my FWH sent our youngest daughter a text meant for his AP. Daughter forwarded it to me, thinking it was a ‘sexy’ message for me, and saying how embarrassing it was. The rest, as they say, is history. I threw him out, but three weeks later we started talking again and decided to try R.

From the day he came home he has been remorseful and willing to do whatever it takes to make me feel secure and happy again. Obviously there were some bumps along the way, and some trickle truth, but it’s mainly been positive. Obviously I was distraught and traumatised. For the first year I was in a state of shock/panic/trauma. But things got easier after the first antiversary.

I have made it clear that I forgave and offered R as a one time offer, but if he strays again that’s it. In my head I know what I will do if that happens, but as the years pass it feels less likely.

What has helped is that FWH continues to work on himself and to be a good, safe husband. He ‘only’ had a sexting ‘relationship’ with the POS AP, and I’m as sure as I can be that there was no PA. He blocked her as soon as we decided to R, and we haven’t heard from her.

So it can be possible for R to work. We continue to be closer than we used to be, and I am grateful for that, if not for what caused it.

5 comments posted: Wednesday, March 22nd, 2023