Why is he rushing a divorce???

Hello!

I am the betrayed spouse.. I will not get into all the details long story- my ww husband we will call him bob has been having an affair for the last 4 years….we have been married 30 years and have 6 kids.. I have 2 affairs confirmed and suspect he has cheated the entire marriage…

I hit my breaking point a few weeks ago when I came across a hotel reservation on his phone… he hasn’t been sleeping with me lol so the hotel room wasn’t for me lol

I broke every dish in the house.. and told the adult children in the house 28 and 19.. we also have a 16 yr old and 11.. and 2 other kids out of the house..

Any way that was in Sept he immediately asked me for a divorce because he says I turned the kids against him ha ha .. the kids already knew and have known for years smh…

Well he is still in the house plans to move out in Jan and want to file for divorce immediately and wants me to sign a divorce decree.. so what’s the big rush???? He hasn’t even left the house yet…

He is offering a generous settlement but I suspect that he is expecting a huge windfall of cash sometime in 2025 and that’s the reason for the rush..

In our state it mandates a year of separation before filing so I have no idea why he thinks he can file immediately.. I said I want the year of separation and he said that’s okay. It he still want all documents signed in Jan .. back to Jan again sounds suspicious…

When I told him I wanted future profits from his company he told me he is closing his company in Jan and opening a new one in Feb.. again there is Jan again!!!!

When I told him I wasn’t agreeing to anything till after the year separation he became enraged and almost hit me..

I than read his divorce decree that he is writing and the kicker is- he puts down that if I tell other women’s family or friends about the affair that I lose everything..

I laughed tild him he can take his divorce paperwork and shove it where the sun don’t sign…

Meanwhile my state weighs infidelity and domestic abuse in divorce settlements- I have him on both..

He has tried to control me my whole marriage and now he wants to control the divorce- good luck!!!!

9 comments posted: Friday, December 6th, 2024