Yeah this just sucks. He cheated. That's it.

Being bullied in therapy

I'm very much dreading our new attempt at therapy. He cheated, years ago. At the time, we had twin toddlers. I did E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G. at home. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, mowing lawns, trimming hedges, all these done IF and WHEN the two babies slept at the same time. I turned every cent many times. Spent hours on things to save money. Ran all errands.

A long time after his cheating, I finally convinced him that we need help! He always protested saying that therapy can be damaging. We endes up at the worst counsellor possible (locally we have a total option of three) who basically told me it's Gods will and all that is needed is for me to forgive.

Fast forward years. I'm still in this hole he dug. I can't talk to anyone about it - small town wirh all its drama. I tried getting help at a proper mental health institution, but its 5hours away and it is almost impossible to do it under the radar.

He kept asking when will I get over this. Where are we headed. Do I even carr. And so on. Our discussions head nowhere. I say what I feel. He hears "you are shit and wrong". So finally we are trying again at another therapist who seems to be a qualified psychologist. I seriously do not need to be run over and bullied again. He is a smooth talker and manipulator, and I can't compete with that. If this fails we don"t have a chance at rescuing things.

14 comments posted: Wednesday, July 12th, 2023