What is it we really hope to get out of reconciliation?
What sort of relationship does a WS really hope to get from their BS, when they were dissatisfied with enough with the relationship to enter into and conduct an affair, and still present themselves as a family man/woman whilst swimming in a sea of lies and deceit?
What sort of relationship does a BS hope to achieve with a WS when the WS has shown them how insignificant they were to them at some point in time/for a period of time. How can the relationship ever be anything near what we hoped our primary relationship would be when living with broken trust and betrayal.
I have found the thread healing and living with infidelity a very poignant one for me being 3 1/2 years post dday. It saddens my heart to see how much compromising/mental gymnastics a BS seems to have to do to try and make the relationship work and that there is a level of sadness which always seems to remain no matter how far out from dday we become.
Does a WS also carry that ingrained layer of sadness, for what they lost and traded for 'good times'?
26 comments posted: Saturday, May 29th, 2021