Just a vent
WH and I have been separated for about two years with every intention of divorcing; he asked if we could wait until the New Year to file for tax purposes, and that was fine with me.
We are pretty amicable, all said. Two daughters who we share 50/50 custody of. They are very close to both of us, so with the help of a very good IC, I have learned to move past the anger a little bit and tolerate him.
He told me the other day that he is seeing someone seriously. It's not anyone he was involved with while we were together. And while I am not jealous - I definitely have zero romantic feelings for him and am in a relationship myself - there is some old anger resurfacing. It wasn't just cheating, but also severe alcoholism that I helped him through.
I know he didn't do the work to become a safe partner for anyone. So why does he get to ride off into the sunset and find someone new, after shattering our family? I wanted to ask him if he informed her of his serial cheating and alcohol rehab, but I know that wouldn't solve anything, and would just give him a reaction.
I know I can't let this gnaw at me and it doesn't change anything in my new fulfilling life. But there is something about it that just makes you want to smash rocks, isn't there? Thanks for "listening".
12 comments posted: Wednesday, November 11th, 2020