Newest Member: TotallyShatteredandlost


Me BH - 33 at the time
EXWW - 33 at the time
2 Kids - 2 and 4 at the time
Discovered May 17
DDay July 17
6 Month EA, 2 Month PA
2 week false R
Happily separated July 17
Re-partnered Mar 19
AP Passed Mar 22

AP has passed... Not sure how to feel

I haven't been here for a long time...

I discovered my WW's affair in July 2017 with a co-worker of hers.
We separated shortly after as there was no effort or attempt on her end to repair our marriage.

Fast Forward 4.5 years, WW and AP have had a tumultuous relationship.
Regular break-ups and getting back together (literally well over 20 times in the last few years)

They never ended up living together (as we have 2 kids and the lack of stability in the relationship would have been too much)
WW would have had to move in with him and therefore would have been in a difficult situation when they broke up again.

Most recently they broke up around the start of Feb - they both had COVID and had some falling out.
They reconciled a few weeks later (3-4 weeks ago)
He's been unwell since - Unsure if COVID related or not, but it's irrelevant.

He passed away on Saturday...

I really don't know how to feel about it all.
The ex has been absolutely awful to me over the last 5 years. Has made some terrible false accusations and has destroyed the relationship I have with my own father. She is completely unable to co-parent with me and continues to slander me to her friends 5 years on, when we literally never talk.

It's just a bit of a shock to me..
I know my kids will be upset, as even though he wasn't a good person (criminal convictions and poor morals) they liked him...
I'm upset for them, but it all seems somewhat anti-climatic if I'm honest..

I know a death is not nothing, but I guess I just expected it to end in disaster from a relationship point of view, but now, just like that, it's over...

Really don't know what to say...

18 comments posted: Monday, March 21st, 2022

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