Happily Married now and just wanted to share...

I think it has been well over a year since I've visited here. A few ups and a lot of downs and heartbreak over the last 4 years, but my silver lining came at the beginning of last year.

I met an amazing woman and everything just clicked into place. We are married now, very much in love and happy as ever.

It really makes me question why I moped around for 2 years and put so much time and effort in my former cheating spouse post the first DDay. Of course, during that time every thing just felt so bleak and hopeless. I would also cling on to just about any woman that gave me any kind of positive attention because I craved it so much after being betrayed. I don't regret having a little fun but emotionally I was not ready and tried to get serious too fast with a few people before meeting someone who was actually good for me.

My new wife went through an almost an identical situation with her ex and during a similar time frame. It was surreal how similar our situations were and we really bonded over that. That's not all we bonded over by any means (I'd be here typing for hours), but I am very blessed to have connected with someone so much like me and I truly feel our past experiences with infidelity will actually benefit our relationship. We are still very much in our honeymoon phase but I don't plan to leave it. The only problems we have are still having to deal with narcissistic controlling exes because we both have kids.

I'm not sure why I felt compelled to logon and post this. Maybe it will give someone hope that it will all be ok. Don't be like me and cling on to just anyone that gives you attention post D. Make sure it feels right and genuine before getting serious. If you have a remorseless, habitual cheating ex, do not waste your time with them either.

9 comments posted: Thursday, June 24th, 2021

Those who are Remarried or soon to be

Those of you who are remarried or engaged, how long did you date the new person beforehand and how long did you wait to introduce kids? How long were you divorced?

I know everyone moves on and adjusts differently. I'd just like to get a general idea of everyones experience.

I have my reasons for asking and I will share why but don't want to bog the post down!

Thanks!

[This message edited by seeker16 at 2:19 PM, June 30th (Tuesday)]

6 comments posted: Tuesday, June 30th, 2020