Moving in/blending families cold feet

I’m 7 years out. Have done so much healing, therapy, went thru the ringer getting myself and my poor kids thru this shitshow. Fast forward and I got my career back on track, financially independent from him, and amazing relationships with my teenagers.

3 years into the most amazing relationship. I love him so much and he would do absolutely anything for me, and for my kids. We are engaged, looking at houses, planning to move in and blend.

I’m starting to get cold feet. Not about him. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. But about blending (he has younger, tougher kids with some special needs), about sharing my space again (I treasure my alone time bc I never get it with having my kids full time and a full time job) and buying a house together when I’ve worked so hard to be independent.

Do I need to take that leap of faith and trust it will all be ok in the end? Am I being selfish? I’ve never been one to take the easy way out…but I’ve also never been this all over the place. It’s going to be such a huge change not just for me but for my kids. And his - they are nervous. Do I wait until I’m sure it’s the right time? Will there ever really be a right time? Help!!!!

6 comments posted: Friday, December 24th, 2021

Juggling it all in my new beginning

Can’t believe it’s been 7 years. Insanity. Anyway I made my way through all the stages and pain and sadness and found my new beginning. Went back to my old career in finance, have the most amazing relationships with my two (now) teenagers, and found the most amazing man to share life with. But I am struggling a lot of the time on balancing it all. Feel like I’m always juggling something or someone. Between work and kids and fiancé and friends I barely have time for myself. (I have one kid 💯 and the other most of the time). Feel guilty that I am exhausted on my nights with my fiancé and often just want to crawl into bed. Does this get easier?!

1 comment posted: Wednesday, October 27th, 2021