Me 47: BS Him 47: WS M 22 yrs with 1 DD (age 17) and 13 year old twin DS D-Day 1/28/2015 (1.5 mos. affair) EA/some PA (his TT story) In R (I think)

Send anonymous letter

I need help on an issue at work. My boss is a wife beater. Apparently for 16 years he has. His poor wife finally got the nerve to issue a Protection From Abuse Order against him in February and file for divorce. He is such a narcissistic bastard, he is telling everyone she is crazy and she drove him to punching and kicking her! I do not know her well and feel so sorry for her, I pray for her. My problem is even with the divorce filing and PFA he is still hurting her from a distance. They have three children, and he is getting them to do things to her. (i.e. break lawn mower, break other things, hide credit cards, bills, etc.) he ignored the kids before but now is using them still to hurt her. he also is brain washing them and getting them to be awful to her. OMG I want to tell her so bad, but I am scared of the outcome if he found out it was me! He has destroyed anyone that has ever crossed him. As he is now trying to do to his wife! Honestly this man would be one to kill the wife and the kids then himself. He is very scary. I cannot think of a way to get an anonymous letter to her or her attorney to protect her.

This is all on top of my personal problems with Wh having an affair, my father's diagnosis of cancer and death a month ago, and my teen daughter being a wreck.

Advice?

3 comments posted: Tuesday, July 21st, 2015

How did you find "other" e-mail?

This is basically a snooping question out of curiosity. How did you find your WS "other" e-mail if they had a secret one? Just curious. I think they could hide better on their phones than their computer which my WH uses phone more.

4 comments posted: Wednesday, April 8th, 2015

IPhone tracking apps/spyware.

My D Day was less than 2 months ago. FWH is going out of town this coming week for first time since d day. Obviously I'm nervous. We are in IC and MC. I don't 100% have trust back yet, think it will take longer than 7 weeks to get that back bc of the lying he did. I aught him by checking ATT bill after he had been acting "off".

I would like some suggestions as to tracking apps, VAR, anything I can put on his iPhone 6 to see if what he's telling me is truthful, etc. I see many of you put things on you WS phone. Can you help with some tips, etc. ?

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6 comments posted: Saturday, March 21st, 2015

Book On Couples Communication Skills

Does anyone on here have a recommendation for any books that help teach couples to communicate better one after infidelity would be even better. Thanks.

8 comments posted: Monday, March 16th, 2015

Best Book for WH to read on helping me heal? Go...

I am asking for opinions on the best book for my WH to read about how to understand my feeling and help me heal? He has said he would read a book, but I doubt he will read more than one. I just wanted opinions on the books most helpful for wayward spouse to read. Wayward people feel free to chime in what helped you help your spouse. Thank you.

6 comments posted: Tuesday, February 24th, 2015