BH Me, 47 yo maleWW, 45 yo femaleMarried 17 yrsTogether 19 yrsDD, 16 yoDS, 14 yoD-Days and TT: 10-22-14 thru 11-7-14WW 2 PA's with 2 different OM's, 2012 & 2014; Separating

Love Bombing As I Am Trying to Separate

WW had As in 2012 and 2014 with separate APs; I discovered both in 2014. I forgave, we reconciled, but I really never trusted in my heart. Fast forward to August 2023, she accidentally sent me a 5 second voicemail which, to me, was clearly her having sex with a man. Even heard the guy's voice. I confronted her (after waiting a bit to watch, never discovered anything further), and she denied which blew my mind. Later I had two friends ask their opinion of the audio. One was 100% sure it was sex sounds, one was 95% sure. I broached the subject of divorce in October 2023 and throughout that month and November. I stopped talking about it during the holidays. I approached her again about it in mid February this year. She was not cooperative. I decided to take steps on my own and get a place. I got a 3 bedroom for me and my kids (for 50/50 custody). Lease started July 1st this year. I told my WW on June 1st. I told my kids in mid June. I have all my stuff (almost) in the fully furnished house, but I haven't spent the night there yet. I'm getting cold feet because my WW is hoovering me like crazy. (But still vehemently denies the August 2023 voicemail was sex). She's love bombing. And my parents are just torn up. They love her dearly. And my kids, who seemed ok at first, are now being different. My daughter is colder than usual and my son is asking me to stay. I didn't know the final push would be like this. Anyone have a similar experience?

12 comments posted: Friday, July 5th, 2024